How My Dating is Proceeding

How My Dating is Proceeding

Let’s see, I’ve written about having my “Check List of Necessary Qualities the Man Must have.”  Also, having my first date in over 40 years and how I behaved… some might say I was just a little over-wrought… which is really an understatement!

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Next, I’ll bring you up to date on how my “dating” is proceeding.  On one level – very well!  I’ve spent every weekend (which included Christmas and New Year’s) with “TK” since our first date in November.

There have been lots of good times and a few hiccups.  It’s taken me a while to realize and accept that TK does not have the same temperament as Alex.  Of course, the first question would be:  “Did I really expect him to be like Alex?”  Obviously, I stupidly did on some level!

The reason I say that is because when TK did not react to something I said in an understanding way, I got somewhat “snippy.”  That’s my way of saying I behaved just a titch badly.

Now, bless his heart, TK did not get angry… he got confused!

And in my own defense, I figured out what I was doing and stopped comparing the communication styles of the two men.  However, once in a while my common sense leaves me and my highly emotional state takes over.

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For example, I received an email from a very nice man.  He wrote about his experience seeing Alex as a client in the late 1980s and early 1990s.  He had just heard about Alex’s death and wanted to share his experiences (with Alex)… with me. 

He told me that seeing Alex had literally changed his life and he was very thankful for Alex’s help.

Reading his letter, I burst into tears several times and as much as I really appreciated reading what he wrote about Alex, the pain I felt was truly horrible!  Unfortunately, when I got to TK’s house a few hours later, I was a bit “snippy” with him.

Of course the poor guy didn’t have a clue what was going on in my head or my heart!  Again, he did not go off the deep end and remained calm.  He advised me he had some work to do, so could I amuse myself.  To which I replied, “Of course.”  I needed time to get myself together, which I did by taking Ty for a walk.

Upon my return, I was much calmer, and thinking more clearly.  Ty is a great “therapist” dog because it’s impossible for me to stay sad or angry when I’m with him on a walk.  Therefore, my “snippiness” had disappeared.  Thank heaven!

So a pattern has emerged.  I spend the weekend with TK and have a great time, eating wonderful food, and generally getting to know each other.  We have very interesting conversations and laugh a lot!  And, I really would be remiss if I didn’t include that we have a great sex life!

And a bonus has been that Ty has taken a liking to TK.  And, TK likes Ty!  This is a really good thing because if they didn’t like each other, one of them would be in trouble and it wouldn’t be Ty. :-) 

So, of course, I’ve been wondering, where is this going?  And, before I could really get my knickers in a proper twist, my dear friend Tamara said, “Why don’t you just relax, stop worrying about the future, and enjoy yourself, NOW!”


I couldn’t have said it better myself! :-)

P.S.  I trust that I haven’t embarrassed any of you by mentioning my sex life!!  If I have, please accept my apology.  On second thought… I’m not going to apologize.  The reason – The fact that I’m a 70-year-old woman and I’ve got a great sex life, not only makes me happy and delighted, it also means that I am behaving like an Outrageous Old Broad and loving it! :-)

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